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What if parents acted like schools?

3/11/2015

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Schools pride themselves on their ability to act as surrogate parents. The Latin expression in loco parentis has long been used as the legal principle giving schools the right and responsibility to act "in place of the parent" and has been loosely defined by educators as giving them the power to make decisions in the manner of a kind and judicious parent. It is used to govern classroom management, administrative disciplinary decisions, school excursions, etc. Schools, in essence, see themselves as taking over the role of parenting from 8:30 to 3:30 while your children are in their care.

But what if in loco parentis were reversed? What if, rather than schools acting like parents, parents acted like schools? How might that work?

Well, to begin with, activities around the home would have to be quite a bit more regimented. Perhaps you could install bells or chimes to indicate when it was time to move from one activity to another. Buzz, "sorry kids, Lego time is over - let's move on to colouring between the lines"; buzz, "let's go run around the yard" (that's the royal let's - you kids run - I'll time you); buzz, "time to eat"; buzz, "stop eating, whether or not you are finished, and go outside in the rain", etc.

Sibling rivalry would be a thing of the past, as every child would be treated exactly the same.  (Now in fairness, a friend of mine did treat her two children exactly the same in spite of their three year age gap. It was certainly entertaining to see a 1 year old get a Fisher Price "Alpha Probe" to match his 4 year old brother's Christmas wish!)


Everything your child did would be assessed and reported on, parents could post charts showing which child was the best in each of a number of arbitrary categories: top bed maker; dish clearer; tooth brusher; etc. and issue press releases for each swimming level mastered or consecutive successful visits to the dentist. Any of your children who failed to meet your expectations in any of these important skill areas would be told that they lack "grit" and that their failure to swim the backstroke was due to the fact that they had a fixed mindset that made them insist on going forward instead.

Discipline would definitely be easier. If your child misbehaved, you could simply call the school and tell them to keep her or him there for the next few days. Repeated offences would have them staying at school permanently.

Finally, when all else failed, parents would not have to take any responsibility for their lack of success in parenting. After all, they could just blame the school. Oh, wait a minute, they already do that!

Let's face it, following the principle of in loco schola makes little sense for parents. But, maybe if we educators really believed in the importance of in loco parentis, we could consider following a different kind of approach when working with our students. In fact, what if we really acted like parents? What if every school treated each child as if her or his success was critically important to us? What if we actively searched for ways in which every student could learn effectively? What if our first response was always to believe what a child says and not try to pick apart their stories? What if we respected the fact that family life is complex, and that not every night at home is going to be conducive for completing homework? What if we stopped playing children off of one another with stars and stickers and class rankings and pep rallies? What if we acted the way that we expect our students' parents to act- to be supportive, to communicate regularly, to check agendas and sign homework, to encourage, to give second (and third and fourth) chances - to treat our students with dignity and respect; and, to assess their work as an instructional tool - not as a judgement of individual worth?

You see, in loco parentis is not actually a legal construct at all, it is a philosophy of teaching and learning. The more that schools and administrators and teachers become cheerleaders, coaches and advocates for children, rather than taking on the roles of judge, jury and executioner, the better the chance they have for success. 

No, parents should not act like schools. And, for their part, schools must not take on the role of parents, but rather must embrace each parent's belief in her or his individual child. That is the true measure of the home/school partnership, and the secret for student success.









2 Comments
sue Hodgkinson
3/24/2015 01:15:57 am

Well said Dr. Christopher

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Mark Brown
3/24/2015 01:19:18 am

Jim,

A provocative post, as usual. Will be shared here with those who would care to listen.

First a comment, then a question.

It is these very structures of school that are left so un-questioned (regimentation, marks as rewards, grouping children by age rather than abilities/interests, and boring them all with the same learning environment/subject matter while ensuring that the oh-so-dangerous independent thought never actually occurs) that I fear will eventually drive me away from the teaching profession. Thankfully, with appreciation certainly sent in your direction for your part in it, I work in a context where I personally only have to deal with the bell schedule and age-groupings. This freedom and love of the work keeps me in the profession for now.

However, this brings me to my question...

It seems to me that the people who really have the power to change these ridiculous aspects of school, the administrative teams, seem to lack the willpower to do so. Whether through not hiring people who stray too far from these structures or not supporting those who step out of the proverbial box it is, from my perspective, largely at the feet of the principals and school heads to either support or simply stand back and allow these changes to take place.

Thus, what are you, as Head of School, doing at KGMS to ensure that these ideals you speak of are in place for your students?

And moreover, how can we, as educators who care for all children, take those lessons and not allow our fellow educators to dismiss them as "just for alternative schools/children with learning differences" so that all children can benefit from what is occurring at KGMS?

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    Dr. Jim Christopher is recently retired Head of Kenneth Gordon Maplewood School and Maplewood Alternative High School in North Vancouver. A parent, author and long-time teacher, and educational administrator across Canada, he has been actively involved in the drive to differentiate learning experiences to meet the needs of all learners.

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